Heading away from home, seven years ago I drove
uncharacteristically slow as I headed for St. Louis
and a check-ride. It was very cold that
day and I drove out by the back way in hopes of better traction as I went up
the hill. There, somewhere after the asphalt
turns to gravel, about where an old barn stands, I locked eyes with something
which was obviously out of place.
Having just moved out of my way, and stopped to observe my
passing from the weeds, was a beautiful Border
Collie. Sometimes you lock eyes with
someone, or in this case an animal, and you just know their story. I could tell hers was one of homelessness and
a desire to connect. If she was to
survive the January cold, she needed it.
And just as some of the greatest directors have portrayed important
moments in life, when I drove by our eyes met and time seemed to slow
down. I knew she needed someone but my
family needed me to pass my check-ride.
I continued.
All day, even during the check-ride itself, I thought about
the beautiful dog I had seen abandoned in the cold. It’s common in our area for heartless
rednecks to set out the Christmas gift dogs they can’t afford because of their
need for beer, cigarettes, and four-wheel lift kits. But, this
dog was not what you typically see “set out”.
She wasn’t a pit-something, beagle half-breed, or abused lab which is so
commonly seen wandering and wondering where their family went. No, this was a well bred canine - a princess
dropped in the hood.
When I finished my check ride I called home from the
car. Driving away after a successful sim
session feels like you were just released from a death sentence so the mood is
good. Ginger
and I said our hellos and I asked what she was up to. She said, “I’m petting Sky”. Right then, I was sure I knew what had
happened, but I still asked, “You’re doing what?” To which she replied, “I’m petting Sky.” “Who is Sky”, I asked slowly. And that’s when she told me the story. She had been inside, Ace had barked, she went
out to see what he was barking about, and there was a super-skittish but
beautiful Border Collie that wanted to trust
her but just couldn’t.
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Ginger with Sky (foreground) and Ace, watching our Gullwing fly away. |
It then took her a significant portion of the day sitting
outside with food to finally get the dog to come to her to eat. Sky, as she was now named, had obviously been
on her own and was extremely nervous.
Yet, Ginger persisted, and before the
sun went down we had a visitor in our home.
Unbelievably, that same dog I had seen in the weeds had made
it a few miles down the road to the one house that would take her in, then
managed to do something to arouse the ears of Ace, who in turn barked in that
certain way that told Ginger to
investigate. When I got home, there was that beautiful dog I had seen on my way out that morning.
For almost two weeks we tried to find her owners. We were sure she was lost because nobody
would set out such a wonderful canine. We are the only ones around here who would ever have such a breed,
and anyone else who might have such a dog would care enough to find her a home if
for some reason they couldn’t keep her. But,
no matter how far away we asked, we couldn’t find an owner. We did though find people who had seen her
stealing food to survive. We would later find out, during one of her vet visits, she had also been shot.
At this point, I have to admit that knowing Sky needed a
good home did not mean I thought we needed another dog. Each day we set out to look for the owners I
hoped to find some little heartbroken kid whose day would be made when they
discovered their puppy had been found.
It never happened. In fact,
toward the end, I must also admit that I was praying nobody would claim her.
Having been on her own, she was an emotional mess, but I was
growing more attached to her by the minute.
Then, at somewhere around ten days of searching, without openly
discussing it, Ginger and I both quit looking. She was ours and a person
would have to use force to take her away.
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That's how she slept. |
Looking back on it she really was a mess. For whatever reason, all of her legs would
move non-stop whenever she wasn’t standing on them. She ate fast like a thief and took food from
others whenever she could. Trash was
something she sought out and tore through often. Sadly, there was also a fear in her indicative
of being beaten and she was so incredibly nervous and hyper teaching her anything was difficult. This would earn her the
nickname, “Hyper-Skyper.”
We started with the legs.
Over time we got her to stop moving them with the command “four on the
floor”. The more she trusted us the more
she learned. Next was the food. We struggled with that one for a long
time. She was scolded for bad,
positively reinforced for good, and made to feel like an honest to God princess
when she would leave trash alone. The
addition of a bowl made to slow down eating finally put to rest her frantic
feasting. Unbelievably, she even began
to lay down by her bowl and eat one morsel at a time. After that, Ginger bought her a bowl that
said “Princess.”
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Where are those moles? |
During those early years one thing did come easy to her
though. She loved to ride in a
vehicle. Sure, she loved to bark at
every squirrel and rabbit that crossed our path but she also did not want to be
left behind. That’s understandable, and
although her excitement was almost unbearable at times, it still made us smile
and she went whenever possible, often to the airport.
Exploding out of the truck, she would bolt straight to a mole run. I can’t count the number of times I
yelled at her for digging. It drove me
insane and yet I understood. She hated
those moles worse than I did. You could see
the excitement in her stance as she feverishly dug for them. It is for this reason I’m sure Ginger
was often puzzled when I told her not to get worked up over Sky digging the
holes in my beloved aircraft parking area.
I’m sorry Ginger, even when she was bad
I loved everything about her.
Did I mention she could jump? Oh my God could she ever. Out of nowhere she’d bound over the end of
our bed, four feet high, and right into the covers with us. Every morning, without fail, there she would fly onto the mattress. If she didn’t, something was
wrong. That brings me to another
critical piece of her story. She was a
daddy’s girl.
I have no idea why, but at some point it became obvious to everyone that there was a special connection between us.
She would jump in bed and work me like a con-man works his mark. Always demanding more head scratching and
always getting it. If I refused, she’d nudge her nose into my hand, lift up my arm, and pet her own head with it. She also did something else I could never get
over.
Whenever we’d come home she would always be there at the
door. And when I came home from long
trips she did the same. In those
instances though, the other two dogs and the cat would lean against me and wag
their tails with the expectation of some attention. But Sky, she
would sit down in the middle of all of them and stare into my eyes with more
focus than I am capable of describing.
Her unblinking giant brown eyes, combined with an absolute silence and
stillness, seemed to say “look at me daddy; I’m the one that really loves
you.” And, it always worked.
There was also this one other thing she did that always made
Ginger’s eyes roll. From the other side of the room you could see it coming. Sky would get a look in her eyes and across
the floor she would fly up into my arms in my lap.
Ginger would stare at us with comical disbelief and say, “That’s
pathetic.” It was hilarious and
true. She was as much a part of our
lives as any dog could be.
Thankfully, after years of hard work, Sky no longer flailed
her legs, got into trash, ate like a fiend, or distrusted everyone. Even better though, her desire to learn new things developed. She would wait to eat until we told her “OK eat”, she could sit, lie down, roll over, go
right, “crush balls” (Ginger’s call to have
her jump in my lap), and toward the end she finally learned to speak.
I have no idea why that command was so hard for her because Ginger
had easily taught her to call our other pets home with the phrase “Call’em home
little girl.” Ginger
would tell her this command and yell “Heeeyyyy”, as if she was trying to call
the other dogs, and the little girl would tilt her head back and bark until Ginger
told her “OK, CUT”. It was hilarious to
watch. When Ace was around, he’d get in
on it too.
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So much fun. |
Being a Border
Collie she also loved to run. Man was
she ever wicked fast. But
something was clearly wrong from the first day we found her. Although she could run with incredible speed
and grace for maybe two hundred feet, she would then plop down due to
exhaustion. This greatly concerned us
and we had every test known to man run on her.
At one point she was even hooked up to a heart monitor for several
days. Nothing could ever be found to explain
it.
Then, about a month ago, she started to randomly limp and at
times would not jump. She loved to jump,
“pop wheelies” as we called it, and when she quit jumping we knew something was
wrong. Shortly thereafter she tested
positive for a bacterial infection and we thought it would be an easy fix. But two weeks later, when I was away on a
trip, Ginger called to let me know Sky couldn’t
move. Our little girl was in very bad shape and Ginger wasn't much better. That’s when it was discovered she had cancer of the blood vessels and the prognosis was not good. It had made it to her liver.
Emergency room vets being emergency room types, they pushed
two options; cut or kill. Gotta fix
whatever is wrong. They pushed really
hard for Ginger to put her down right then.
If you can’t cut to fix, then she’s a goner so you are irresponsible to not
put her down - that is the message she got. Thankfully, cooler heads prevailed and she
brought my little girl home. That’s when
Ginger’s incredible love for Sky came charging
through.
Sky may have been a daddy’s girl, but momma loved and
enjoyed her just as much. And thanks to
Ginger’s farm skills, Sky was given another 8-10 really good days. Some of them were so good we had to restrain
her from jumping to keep her from injuring herself. Fortunately, they also happened to be days I
was home. Then the final downturn came.
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Not feeling well... |
Yesterday (May 16th) Sky once again began to bleed internally and became
very weak. Ginger
and I both knew this was it. I took her
for one last walk.
Seeing me put my shoes on always excited Sky and this time
it gave her a burst of energy that got her out the door. A few stops later and we were off the deck
into the grass. There she lay down from
exhaustion. I grabbed a chair and sat
down beside her.
It was a beautiful cool night of 75 degrees and a strong
breeze blew through the trees. Leaves
rustling in the wind added a sound like that of waves breaking on a beach. Behind us
distant lightning from approaching storms flashed as lightning bugs randomly
did so in front of us. All the little
critters sang their songs. She loved it
outside and together we sat there soaking up the moment and all the
fleeting life around us. An hour was
gone in a heartbeat.
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Front to back - Bair, Ace, and Sky |
When we left the house the next morning, Sky couldn’t even
get one foot into the car. I lifted her
up, tenderly trying to make sure her last hour on Earth was painless. I have no idea how long I had gone without
breathing, but when I sat down in the front seat I shut the door, let out a
long deep painful sigh, and put the car in reverse.
That’s all I could do before my head collapsed into my hands.
We live in a country where not too long ago every family
could expect to lose a child. Today we
have it so good many of us can’t handle the loss of a dog. I’m ok with that. The time will come that I will be over it and
life will go on. When I look back,
I will be thankful that this wonderful little Border Collie, named Sky, was
part of my life. She made me feel more like a parent than I ever had
before or ever shall again. Her presence added purpose to an otherwise meaningless
existence and we gave her the best home she could ever hope for in exchange. She offered me love; I gave love back; and it’s
true - we were pathetic.
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What a wonderful dog she was. |
****Thanks to my wonderful wife Ginger who brought this beautiful little girl into our home and took such good care of her. You may have known her as "daddy's little girl" but I know she rarely let you out of her sight.
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Ginger posted the following "lessons" online the next day.
Lessons from Sky:
• Find the place that welcomes you and call it home
• Be cautious of people; but love those who love you back
• Test the limits and find the boundaries
• Endure through the pain
• There are bad people in life. Rid yourself of them.
• Ask for attention – you’re worth it
• Scrappiness ensures you have food on the table
• Life really is all about you
• If you are excited about something, jump up and down and let the world know about it
• Run hard, play hard, work hard and then rest before doing it again
• If someone gets in your space, tell them about it
• Everything tastes better with cheese
• The middle child gets the hand me downs - but that’s alright
• Get a facial whenever you can (Gilmore would clean Sky's face every morning)
• Stay alert at all times
• Persistence is the key to getting what you want
• Go to the right, the left just doesn’t seem to work
• Call ‘em home at the end of the day
• Life is short, enjoy it to its fullest